(Photograph by James Toth. See more of his work here.)I have been discovering the power of thought and action lately, more so than ever. We have thoughts going through our heads all the time- every second of the day, but how do we train those thoughts to be positive, and not get so caught up in the negativity all around us?
The media is filled with drama, and for some reason we love it. When we watch movies or television, our emotions are led around by a leash- we feel sadness, anger, fear, elation, surprised and arousal when we are supposed to, as we watch moving images on the screen.
But staring at a screen is not living. The average time spent in front of a screen, whether it is a computer, TV, video game or movies, has increased tremendously over the past several years. Kids are becoming fat and acquiring lovely things like diabetes and heart issues because they don't go out and play anymore- they are not living real lives.
It seems like our real lives are made boring by the drama on the screen. It's much more exciting to live through fictional characters. We used to get this from books, but now it's even easier- No thought involved. Entertain me.
But it feels so good when we go out for a walk, a bike ride, to a concert, to the park to read or meditate. We can control our actions and our thoughts if we just make a little effort. The rewards are profound. It gives us that feeling of accomplishment and the richness of life that only comes with actually going out and living it.
Our thoughts, words and actions don't rule us if we don't allow it. Engaging in the drama of gossip around the office and in our personal lives is a waste of time and energy, but we seem to love that too. But do we really? It tends to make us feel horrible inside after, if we examine the essence of it. I always use this test: If I repeated this gossip to the person I am gossiping about, how would they feel? How would I feel saying it? What does it say about me that I said that negative thing? It says that I am insecure and just wanted to create a drama so I would find excitement and fit in.
So let's see what would happen if we stopped the gossip and said something positive about the person we are trashing... If someone really bugs us, we can look deeper into it and realize that they are holding up a mirror for us. There is something about them that is pointing out things about ourselves that we don't like. So if we try harder and find something positive to say about them, it reflects back on us, and can change the direction of the conversation entirely. We can effectively change the energy of the interaction.
Let's make a promise to ourselves that we will transform every situation into a positive experience. Sometimes crappy things happen, but it's how we react to those things that will decide what we learn in the end. Become the Queen or King of your thoughts, words and action :)
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